MARRIAGE AND TEMPERAMENTS

MY INTROVERTED WIFE & I PART1.

Communication, they all say, is key to the success of any relationship. From profound relationship counsellors, to your district church pastor, to the marriage committee, they all stress the need for communication between spouses. Ecclesistes 9:9 says live joyfully with the wife of your youth and in order to live joyfully, you need to communicate rightly.

Opposites attract, Tim LaHaye and his co-author both surmised and I concur. It’s the law of Physics come to play in human relationships. Unlike poles attract, like poles definitely repel, remember how the two north poles off a magnet struggle to keep away from one another when playing with them as kids?

This theory was the basic reason for the deep-seated attraction I had towards my wife.

Some couple of years before I met her though, I was led to marry some other beautiful sister who matched me in temperament; I was a fantastic talkative, sociable, action-oriented, enthusiastic, friendly, and out-going person. She was equally very friendly and outspoken. As an icing on the cake though she was also beautiful, had skin the colour of a ripe banana and eyes like the Chinese. I never got to see her hair though, because it was always tucked away in a scarf but I heard she had a headful of glory and that it was very, very long. Her smile was as bright as the sun in January and when she laughed, it had such a rich tone to it. I almost mentally scored the notes in her laughter, it should lie somewhere around the E flat major and F sharp. The happier she was, the higher the key. She was also highly spiritual and well dedicated to the Youth ministry in Church. All the youths loved her and there was never a dull moment with her. She was witty as well as humorous. She was called simply called sister Aanreti, short for Aanretioluwa which means we’re expecting the Lord.

I prayed and asked to show me the way, to lead me who I should marry and He did. It’s not as difficult as people make it to be. If God is Your Father, He will show you the way. It was through dreams, neither was it by revelations but a still small voice of the Lord that said “that is your wife.”

It did not cost me any sleepless night to propose as I had my way with words. I was so confident of what the Lord had told me and I already had refused to accept no for an answer in my prayers. It was after a Monday Bible Study I asked to see her in the Pastor’s office. Being the drama Queen that she was, she paused for 70×7 seconds that seemed almost like an eternity to me.

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I knew from day One, day one being the first day we commenced our courtship meeting that this, us, would not work. But I struggled to keep up with the motions because of what people said. It ranged from, “Oh you guys look fantastic together. Her yellow skin matched mine, the colour of burnt yam, we were both passionately involved in the work of the ministry, we were both in the humanitarian career-she was a nurse and I was an officer of the United Nations in charge of relief to war torn zones in the country. We also both belonged to the prayer warrior team. Sister Aanreti can pray! So much that we began to call her Praying Hyde. So how could it not work? I felt something was probably wrong with me for thinking the exact opposite of what people thought. I went to pray about it but God remained silent about it.

Here’s the reason why I thought it would never work and why it never did.

PART 2